When I was going through eight months of IBS hell last year (and accordingly missing a large number of social engagements), a "friend" informed me that I was clearly codependent with my boyfriend and that she had very thoughtfully made up a list of things that I needed to do to become less codependent. She made this announcement in a public forum. When I said, very politely and after a great deal of consideration and re-writing to be as tactful as possible, that this was inappropriate, she told me that I was acting like a spoiled teenager throwing a tantrum and that I didn't appreciate the love and concern that she was showing to me.

I don't talk to her any more.